5 Tips For Setting Boundaries In Friendship !

hello everyone I hope you all are doing well so recently i've been thinking alot about friendships and how they evolve over time as we get older. The older you get the more boundaries there are. When i was in highschool my friends and I had no boundaries in place for eachother which lead to friendships ending etc.i only have one friend a few friends left in my life from those highschool days but i had to set boundaries with them and made sure i understood and respected theirs in return when you are younger you don't realize how important they are because everyone just wants to have fun no one is really thinking logically and no one knows how to communicate without being angry or disappearing but now that we are older we can do all of that effectively for the betterment of self and friendships and also the world around us so i've decided in today's blog i will share 5 tips to get started with setting boundaries within your friendships so grab some paper or open your notes and take them down butterfly!

Tip #1- find what it is that you value in your friendships, what is your “love language” with your friends? (ex: for me one of my values in friendship is respect and an open mind) now i'm only sharing two with you because i want you to really think what it may look like for you write as many or as little as you want

Tip #2-figure out what some of your closest friends boundaries and values are within ur friendship and ik that can be a challenge so here's a comfortable way to start a conversation(ex:hay XYZ i've recently been learning about setting boundaries within myself and the world around me i wanted to know would you be comfortable with talking about what yours are and ill share my own as well) feel free to use this example or create your own

Tip #3-the next tip i have for you is to make sure your boundaries are respected and if they aren't feel free to address it the right way (ex: hay XYZ i really didn't appreciate how things went down some of my boundaries have been cross what can we do to make sure that this won't happen again ) now sometimes setting boundaries will have you losing a few friends but that's ok you'll make new ones most of the time better ones that can RESPECT YOUR BOUNDARIES!

TIP #4-make sure your accountable for your own actions as much as you want them to be accountable for their actions (ex: friend- hay XYZ i didn't like this that happen it hurt me( or whatever is relevant to them at the time) you- okay XYZ i apologize that i hurt you i wasn't thinking b4 i spoke and i didn't mean any harm what can we do to insure that nothing like this happens again i value our friendship and i respect your boundaries) feel free to use this anytime or make it your own if a situation arrives it's always good to take accountability no matter how you personally feel of course don't devalue your own morals but if you know it can be fixed by all means do just that

TIP #5 remember to laugh and give yourself grace through learning your own boundaries and a friends just bc a boundary is in place doesn't mean you can't enjoy eachothers company half of the time it brings more light to you and your friends aura and space for eachother it gives you a chance to relearn your friends in a new light and it also shows you how to have healthy relationships throughout life!

I do hope this is helpful to you all please feel free to leave a comment sharing how you've set boundaries or how your going to start or just simply let me know which one of these tips you're excited to try! Until next time butterflies and don't forget to give yourself grace